In the recent time what happened in Mangalore raise lot of question and concerns among us. The issue is debatable and need the views of the public. On the eve of our 60th national republic the issue of Mangalore happened which is issue of shame on the democratic country!!
I condemn the brutal and unprovoked assault by “self-appointed moral police” on young women in the city of Mangalore. I feel what happened in Mangalore raise different questions and here my opinion with the whole issue.
What Sri Rama Sene did in the premises of Amnesia pub was shocking and it depicts the morale of few people in the society! Any group or the individual is not entitled to take the law in their hand and they don’t have the right to raise voice against the individual choice!! Also this need to note that ‘Individual choice’ is the right of every citizen in this country. The violence what we observed in the city was the violation of the Democratic freedom and Human rights of the all citizens including men and women in this country.
I am very much disturbed by the sharply escalating trend of political and social violence against women in public and private space as a means of enforce, particularly interpretation of culture in the name of "culture, religion and country", which is been taking place in different part of the country.
I excoriate all such forms of the gender based violence against women, children and also the attitude of those societies which makes such violence acceptable with in the family, social and public sphere. It needs to note that this is not an isolated attack done by the group of so called ‘moral police’; we can find different instances in different parts of the country. It is evident that, this incident is profoundly contested by the political power that supports a narrow and fanatical view of Indian culture and also repressive attitude towards women in the society.
1. Drinking is individual choice, any person; group or Organization can't enforce the prohibition of drinking on one person (I think law can do that)!! Question may raise not even parents can ask there children? Yes they can ask, ban, punish etc! It’s like tomorrow if my parents ask me do you drink and why? I need to answer to them, because it’s the issue between me and my parents. Religious organizations like Ram Sena not have the right to ask this!!
2. Ban on drinking - We need to be practical, just give a thought about - is this is possible? Gujarat is a dry state - but violence against women and crime rates are more in that state!! So you can't judge or come to the conclusion as drinking lead to violence! I do agree that it's one of the factors for many accidents and crimes.
3. Gender: In our society by 'tradition' women was suppressed. Many of them told if women drink what about the family... bala etc!! We talk of equality where we see it? Women are chained and will be chained if she is independent also!! How the society thinks I will give an example: Recently in my field work I came across this dialogue ''Madam, that lady divorced her husband, because she was very arrogant and not able to adjust with his family". I asked the person, why that lady divorced? By any chance you asked her personally? He not had the answer!! I was not wanted to know the reason here I wanted to point 2 things:
How judgmental we are in our thinking?
The finger is always pointed towards women.
Drinking can be seen in urban and rural area. Alcoholism is one of the major social problems in the rural area and here the lower class women also drink why these political interest groups not talking about it? Let see for different reason people drink and I am not mentioning it here. Ragu you mentioned the elite women drink and go to pubs. One needs to look why they go? For dinking there are other factors than fun and more over women go out and have a drink are due to the socio-psychological reasons also.
Just observe the friends they make and the relationship or bonding they have with these people. We think the elite women have more social mobility than other people in the society, there are gender studies which focused with above issue and findings are really tell you different version of the stories and they highlight the silent exploitation which is going on inside the house.
Lastly, as few people pointed out Education is the best tool to make youth aware about drinking and its effects. We tell in the rehabilitation center that, drinking is disease. If your female or male friend is drinking just be little rationale to think what may be the cause for alcoholism than just blame him or her for drinking.